How do I stop resenting my mother for never leaving my abusive father? Feminist advice paid subscriber bonus
A reader can't stop thinking about how life would be different if her mother had made different decisions.
A reader asks…
I love my mother very much, and I know she's a victim of patriarchy, but recently I've come to resent her (as I did sometimes when I was younger) for not leaving my abusive father (thus somehow screwing us kids). I perfectly know that leaving is not easy for a thousand of reasons, but somehow I have the feeling that she keeps on choosing him over us/herself (for the record: they are both 68, we are in our 30s and 40s, not living with them). How would you deal with this?
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